I was walking while Lovey was getting his hair coiffed…and after 25 minutes headed back to my car so I could pick him up at the entrance of the salon. As I neared my vehicle, I noticed a car backing in and was way to close…OMG..he’s gonna hit my car..he’s gonna hit my car…oh #?%# he hit my car.. and broke the rear marker (for those of you who don’t know what this is..in the old days..cars had lights on the side and lights on the back..not one light that covers the whole corner). In my tough ass Bostonian manner, I yelled “DUDE WTF were you thinking?!” as I watched him continue to try to parallel park his car to no avail…the thought flying in my mind was that he really needs lessons in parallel parking!!… Mind you, there was enough space for 1.5 cars..so he had loads of room to just back it in smoothly and straighten it forward just a hair…
Fast forward..the guy gets out of the car..and of course I look at him again and scold him…and he sobbed..just broke down sobbing. His brother died yesterday, his 30th bday was today and he was just having a bad day. I told him that was no excuse for hitting my car and to take a moment…breath in through his nose..exhale through his mouth 10 times to calm down before he spoke again…as he handed me his drivers license and bank card. I handed them back saying I didn’t want them and he should NEVER hand out things like that to anyone..friend or stranger.
My first objective was to settle him down… and he kept saying he was having a bad day. I told him his brother may be dead…but he’s still alive and he shouldn’t waste a moment of his day saying he was having a bad day, that was not going to bring his brother back…he was still here and he needed to snap out of it and live. The 2nd thing..turning 30…why get upset about that…it’s fantastic…and it only gets better..so why is upset the number… I’m 56 and having the time of my life…other than some aches and pains…eyes start going eh…you get up in the morning…and you make the day what you want it to be…and I gave him a big hug.
The only thing I wanted from him is to pay for the part that broke…and being that it was just a cover to a light..how much could it be? I did not want to rook him..only to have him responsible for the damages incurred…I suggested he might think about taking lessons in parallel parking..as he really needed some work…and lastly this didn’t happen by chance…It was a wake up call to him… to seize every day and enjoy it…it was up to him to make a choice. . I suggested he get to work so he’d be on time and from this moment on.. start his day out right. I’d head over there to tell him the damage as soon as I found out.
While on the phone with my mechanic…he returned with some money…too much. As I waited for the info on the phone I asked him how he was doing. he thanked me profusely because he said he felt so much better; that meeting me change his whole outlook and his whole day. I found out the part with T&S was only $10… and gave him his money back…again reminding him that he had to work hard for that money and he shouldn’t just hand it out…that would be hours behind the counter for overpaying me instead of putting that money away into a savings account or start investing. Only he could change his life… and it’s all about attitude… there are no bad days unless you want them to be bad… TURN THEM AROUND… Shit happens to all of us…you can choose to be miserable..or you can choose to be happy…it’s up to you.
I figure most people would be mad if something like this happened but I think we come in and out of each other’s lives for a reason…we’re all teachers learning from each other. In this man’s case, he needed a reminder..he needed someone to care for just a moment..it was like literally watching a weight lifted off of his shoulders and a smile return to his face… Slow down…just slow down and breath… and be kind.